Only those with first-hand experience truly understand the blessing and challenges of raising a child with special needs. Parenting is hard work under the best of circumstances. When you add managing the needs of a child with physical or mental disabilities it can bring a whole new level of physical and emotional stress for parents. It also brings a level of joy others rarely comprehend.
We want to be a source of encouragement and hope as you fulfill your calling to parent a child with special needs. We believe every child is a gift from God made in His image and reflecting His dignity. We also consider those caring for children with special needs worthy of special honor and support. To become intentional about your unique situation, we encourage you to reflect on your blessing, your call and your challenge.
When we bear and raise children we cooperate with God’s desire for a “Godly seed” (Malachi 2:15). Parenting is also the primary way most of us fulfill the call to lay our lives down for others (Philippians 2:4-8). Producing and guiding the next generation is a mission that stretches us and pushes us to depend on God like few other things in life, all the while revealing and shaping our larger purpose within God’s plan for humanity.
A Special Connection
Those nurturing a child with special needs often encounter the heart of God in ways that can only be described as a spiritual mystery. While these children may be unable to participate in certain physical and/or academic pursuits, they can thrive in the most important arena of life – the spirit. Even those who can’t understand the written word of God embody what it means to love and be loved as one totally dependent upon the Giver and Sustainer of life. Those honored to serve these children are given a unique connection with the God whose image they bear – seen in a gazing smile, a shrieking laugh, or an unspoken moment of delight that proclaims to all “the refreshing water of God’s joy is available to us all.”
Laying Down Your Life
You have one of the most difficult yet vital callings in the kingdom of God. How can you maintain the ongoing energy and passion needed to parent a child with special needs?
There’s no other way to do it than to daily embrace the call to lay down your life. Philippians 2:5-8 says:
Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus: Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be grasped, but made himself nothing, taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness. And being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself and became obedient to death – even death on a cross!
All Christian parents are called to mirror Jesus by taking on “the very nature of a servant” at home. But it is especially real in the midst of the never-ending sacrifices demanded of those caring for special needs children. Even if those around you never understand the load you bear, you play a part that is immensely important from God’s perspective and is credited as serving Christ himself (Matthew 25:40).
Finding Support and Replenishment
Whether your child has mild or severe needs, you require replenishment in order to stay faithful and avoid burnout. You need practical help and spiritual nourishment. Stephen Covey talks about the importance of “sharpening the saw” – of prioritizing physical, emotional and spiritual restoration so that your efforts can be fueled with new strength and purpose that can only come from God. You and your child need periodic breaks. Of course, making that happen can be difficult because there are very few who offer to help and those who do may not understand what to do, your child’s unique needs, or just how hard it can be. We as a church are here to help support and walk beside you.
Held: Learning to Live in God’s Grip – by Lee and Sandra Peoples
A Bible study written for special-needs parents by special-needs parents. It will teach you that you are not alone; even when life feels out of control, it will help you remember He is in control.
Bible Promises for Parents of Children with Special Needs – by Amy E. Mason
Offers a guide that speaks directly to the unique journey of special needs parenting, helping you claim God’s promises for your everyday life.
Refresh: Spiritual Nourishment for Parents of Children with Special Needs – by Kimberly M. Drew & Jocelyn Green
A devotional that guides parents to spiritual truths that can be applied to the demands they face every day. It offers perspective and hope through the varying stages and phases families experience, from diagnosis to loss and grief.
Stetson Baptist Church Resources
Talk With A Pastor
Our pastor would love to meet with you and help you navigate this exciting time in your life. Feel free to reach out to the church office and schedule an appointment (386) 734-1991.
Stetson Baptist Church provides onsite, Christ-centered professional counseling through Heart Peace Counseling. Both male and female counselors are available. Counseling is offered for adults, adolescents and children. Fees are significantly lower than comparable services in our community. All counseling is confidential. For more information, call Michelle Patterson at 407-797-5289 or John Smith at 386-801-1291.