Launching Young Adults

Being intentional about launching your children.

After years of saying, “When I grow up, I’m gonna be…” there comes a point in which your children start going through the steps of actually making it happen. Dr. James Dobson calls ages 16 to 26 the “critical decade” as young people transition from childhood to an adult. We’ve all heard the phrase “failure to launch” describing young men and women who don’t make that transition for one reason or another. Unfortunately, more and more parents are inadvertently keeping their children from growing up by protecting them from the risks necessary to adulthood.

How can you be intentional about successfully launching your older children?

What Can You Do To Help


Be a Good Coach

As the parent of a teen on the verge of adulthood, you are in the prime of the coaching years. You can motivate, encourage, challenge and advise, but you can’t force feed. You can help your son or daughter articulate what they believe, challenge their thinking, remind them of the “basics” they learned during their earlier years, but the time has come for them to truly own their beliefs. Through that process, you can provide a safe environment to wrestle with and even question the values they learned as children. The key to your influence at this point is in maintaining a strong relationship and frequent, open dialogue.


Give Perspective Amid Their Big Questions

Making the transition into adulthood, your son or daughter will face big questions like: What kind of work should I do? Where should I live? What should I do with my life? The most important thing you can do during this season is to direct them back to overarching Biblical principles. The last words of King David to his son, Solomon, (I Chronicles 28:9) provide a model for parents advising emerging adults: “And you, my son Solomon, acknowledge the God of your father, and serve Him with wholehearted devotion and with a willing mind, for the LORD searches every heart and understands every motive behind the thoughts. If you seek Him, He will be found by you; but if you forsake Him, He will reject you forever.”

 In the midst of the practical advice parents may offer on setting goals, choosing a job, finding a spouse and so forth, we must also elevate God’s principles such as…

  • Unless the Lord builds the house, its builders labor in vain (Psalm 127:1)
  •  Lose your life to find it (Luke 9:23-24)
  •  Number your days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom (Psalm 90:12)
  •  Seek first the kingdom of God (Matthew 6:33)


Give a Vision for Marriage and Family

Parents today often go to extremes to help their children get ready for college and the workforce, but don’t know exactly what they can do when it comes to preparing them for the more important work of marriage and family. While a small minority will be called to lifelong celibate service, most are called to marriage and family (Genesis 2:18-24). We sometimes overlook how much marriage and family serve as the organizing structure of life and the prime arena for our spiritual development. Even if the culture discourages you from taking an active role in this transition, you have a vital part to play in helping your children “leave and cleave.” Actively modeling a Christian family is the foundation, and daily prayer for your child’s future spouse and children is an important commitment. It is essential that you provide guidance and oversight to help your children form strong families as a key emphasis of their launch into adulthood.

Going Further


Life on the Edge: The Next Generation’s Guide

to a Meaningful Future – by Dr. James Dobson

Offers Biblical principles to help young adults face “crucial questions about identity, education, marriage, career, God’s will” and more.

Letting Them Go by Dave Veerman

Offers practical advice for the time together before they leave, and a sneak peek that will arise after they have gone.

Release My Grip: Hope for a Parent’s Heart as Kids Leave the Nest and Learn to Fly by Kami Gilmour

Offers insight into how this time can be fertile ground for deepening your relationship with Jesus.

Webzine that provides young adults with a community of mentors and fellow believers throughout the season of transition from high school to starting a family.


Stetson Baptist Church Resources

Talk With A Pastor

Our pastor would love to meet with you and help you navigate this time in your life. Feel free to reach out to the church office and schedule an appointment (386) 734-1991.

Heart Peace Counseling –

Stetson Baptist Church provides onsite, Christ-centered professional counseling through Heart Peace Counseling. Both male and female counselors are available. Counseling is offered for adults, adolescents and children. Fees are significantly lower than comparable services in our community. All counseling is confidential. For more information, call Michelle Patterson at 407-797-5289 or John Smith at 386-801-1291.