Every person at some point or another struggles with and searches for the answer to the question of "Who am I?" For adolescents and teenagers, this question can drive many of the sporadic and inconsistent behaviors that we sometimes see in their lives. They are trying to figure out their identity. Sometimes they are relying on what they do to define them. Other times they may define themselves by what they can control. They are even willing to resort to defining themselves by what others say about them. Teenagers aren't the only ones struggling with this question, and the world has been too eager to try to give us these inadequate and short-sighted answers.
Henri Nouwen, a pastor, counselor, and writer, has said this about our spiritual identity..."The answer to the single most important question affecting all of humanity "who am I?' is the message of Jesus and the Bible. Your child has been created, redeemed, and called to live as God's precious and beloved child."
In short, your children may have many great talents, abilities, and gifts that are encouraged, and should be encouraged. "But beneath all of their gifts and talents and abilities, each and every child is more than the sum of their abilities and personality. At their core, each is the beloved child of God" (Kara Powell, Sticky Faith).
Please, continue to encourage the gifts, talents, abilities, skills, and everything else that God has blessed your children with. He has given these things to them for a reason. But, make sure that you are also building a foundation for your children to understand that their identity is not in what they do or can do, but in the fact that they are children of the Living God. Each child is a beloved individual, created and known by God Himself.
I am praying for you as you spiritually lead your families to understand their identity in Christ!
*Sticky Faith: Everyday ideas to build lasting faith in your kids by Kara Powell and Chap Clark
Student Pastor at Stetson Baptist Church. Child of the Most High, Husband to Natalie, and Dad to Zach and Zoey. Lifelong Student, Outdoor Enthusiast, and Sweet Tea Connoisseur.